You are reading a post which was written in a rush… I expect to be picked up to babysit in 15 minutes! I better scoot!
Since babysitting is obviously on my mind (and I am at a loss of interesting topics), I will share some techniques I find successful.
Rule number one:
Never raise your voice at the child, ever. No matter how mad you are, it will not improve the circumstances. You will only succeed in making the child and yourself more aggravated.
Rule number two:
Give a controlling child choices (e.g. Would you like to clean the play room or wash the dishes?; Would you like to watch How the Grinch Stole Christmas or Rudolf the Red-nosed Reindeer?). This will often ease his/her attitude. It will also most likely make things easier for you, especially in situations like when some unfeeling employer did not already choose one of their hundreds of kid movies for her three argument-prone children.
Rule number three:
If you are going to set down your own rules, make them clear and simple. For example, instead of “I want you to clear up all the games, toys, and other junk from your floor before your parents get home, which will probably be in about 30 minutes.” Try “When I’m here, all the messes we make have to be cleaned up.” If the child doesn’t understand that, he/she is obviously trying to weasel out of the rule, or too young to follow it.
Rule number four:
When I reprimand/punish a child, I like to give at least one or two warnings first. If Susie is coloring on baby Jack’s high chair, give her a warning, “Susie, don’t color on anything but the paper Mommy set out for you.” If Susie tries coloring on something besides the paper, you would then explain to her that if she does it again, she will sit in time out. However, if Susie already knows it is wrong to color on baby Jack’s high chair (you’ll have to be discerning here), putting her in time out right away is perfectly acceptable.
Rule number five:
Babies… in my opinion, are the hardest to watch. They seem to cry for no reason at all. If one your are watching should happen to cry, there are some simple things to try before flinging the baby at the crib and starting to cry yourself. 1, check the diaper. 2, get its pacifier or blanket, or whatever comforts it. 3, feed it. 4, give it a nap. 5, burp it. If all of the above fails, the baby is probably sick or suffering from “Mommy-left-me-with-a-stranger-disorder.”
Rule number six:
Do NOT lie to the child. Do NOT tell the child Mommy and Daddy are coming home in a few minutes if they are not. Do NOT tell the child he won’t get presents for Christmas if he hits his sister. Do NOT tell the child her ears will go pointy if she doesn’t eat her veggies. I know it sounds cliche, but honesty is the best policy. A smart child (and sometimes the dimmer ones too) will figure out if you are fibbing to make them do something they don’t want to.
I can probably think of more stuff to write, but I really need to go get ready, so you’ll have to wait for another day if you are interested in reading more. =)
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